My family situation is complicated. Too complicated to include in this blog but I promise to later. But in order for this story to work I need to give a few details.
I have a long lost little sister. We can call her S. I met her in 2010. We have seen each other for four different occasions. Before this I was the baby and now I love being a big sister 🙂
Anyway, her crazy mom (we have different moms same dad) thought she would ask all of us (the other sisters) to talk to S about sex! My older sisters were upset about this. They thought something like, “We don’t even know this girl why would we be the ones to talk to her?”
But I was happy to do it as her big sister. But the thing is, she is already having sex! On one of those four occasions me and my older sister interrogated her about her life. Naturally.
Now her mom is asking that I talk to her! So I did. I questioned S about all the usual things starting with:
Does your mom know? She knows now.
Are you seeing someone now? Not really
What does that mean? We do stuff…
I told her that was bad and not to let “senior boys” run their mouth about her. I’ve had the same thing happen to me in high school. But I feel that I can’t tell her not to have sex… That would be hypocritical of me. I started every young. Anyway I told her she needed to get on birth control and get tested. She said her mom didn’t have a job that offered health insurance so she can’t.
I don’t know much about Planned Parenthood but I do know they give birth control to people without insurance for pretty cheap. But her mom is super into the church and refused to have anything to do with it! Now my poor little sister has to be without it!? Her mom is crazy! Why wouldn’t she want her on birth control?!
I know what her mom wants: for her daughter to stop having sex.
I wish I was a virgin… but a 16 year old wouldn’t understand that. It’s unreasonable to expect her daughter to give up sex. Worse to blame it on the fact that she doesn’t like Planned Parenthood. A friend told me that every county has public health clinics that don’t require health insurance. I asked S for her zip code (we live in different states) so I will look into it for her… Sucks…